Hello Malikah, welcome to this group.
I must say that I have not come across extreme hair loss as a side effect of TKI therapy... at least to the extent that you indicate you have suffered. You said you have had CML for 10 years, did you find your hair was thinning before you started TKI therapy or is nilotinib your 1st or 2nd line therapy after imatinib or some other treatment that could have caused this side effect? It could be that you are suffering from a hormonal disturbance such as low thyroid and/or other hormones, which can cause several symptoms, one of them being thinning hair/hair loss.
Regarding talking with others about CML and the general reaction when people hear the work 'Leukaemia' (which is normally a fearful one because of the general public's lack of knowledge about leukaemia and the fact that CML is only one of at least 4 main types). Most of us have had similar experiences, with people (including close friends) actively avoiding us as we are transformed into 'the patient' and/or they avoid the subject altogether. Some make an effort to be sympathetic but then find they don't know how to respond or what to say.
In part, that is why this website and its forum exists, because those who understand best are those who have been diagnosed with CML and, in a manner of speaking, are in the same 'lifeboat'. We have all endured the diagnosis, the same fear, apprehension, worry, panic and sometimes very depressing times and all this on top of dealing with the strange and myriad number of physical side effects from different TKI treatments.
Having said all that, for most of us, once the first year or so is over and blood counts return to the right levels and it is obvious the disease is responding to therapy, it is possible to have a kind of 'normal life' ..... I suppose you could say that having come to terms with the diagnosis and learned as much as is possible about how cml, and crucially how TKI therapy works, with all the complications of test results etc. this could be described as the 'new normal'. Long term data from the IRIS and other studies (9 and 7 year data) is showing that it is highly likely that those who respond to TKI therapy (as well as people, like me with more complex disease 'pictures' have responded well to stem cell transplantation) will live out their normal life span. In other words will not die from CML.
If you are in the UK, and I am not sure where you are based, I suggest you try to attend the upcoming CML Patient Day which this year is in Manchester on 24th September. If you are not based in the UK then there may be other ways you can be in touch with other CML patients. This forum (and other online groups) is a good way to start and it may be all that you need. Talking, whether face to face or by email can go a long way to help combat feelings of isolation.
Best wishes,
Sandy